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My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.

I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.

“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.

I just tried to form Boss laughter…

“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled

“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.

“Sure” I smiled

We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!

So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.

“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.

“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.

“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”

I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.

“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.

“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang

Then her phone rang…

“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.

I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”

“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him

Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.

“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said

They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!

“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.

I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.

“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.

They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my Ipad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.

What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.

“Temi?” My heart raced

“I know you are not coming home…”

“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.

“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose

“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”

“You sound different Dayo”

“Maybe I’m different”

“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed

She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…

Dear reader,

I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No friends or kids allowed.

Lady, when last have you told your partner he is so darn hot? Guy! When last have you told your lady she is the sweetest thing? When last have you whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have you been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’?

Do you even have a clue on what your partner loves to do?

When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that build up to become a mountain you can’t easily break down.

Pay attention to little things, believe that they work and experience new bliss!

Yours Truly

Love Story

I was born in a secluded village on a mountain. Day
by day, my parents plowed the yellow dry soil with
their backs towards the sky.
I have a brother who is 3 years younger than me. I
wanted to buy a handkerchief, which all girls
around me seemed to have. So, one day I stole 50 cents from my father’s drawer. Father had
discovered about the stolen money right away.
He made me and my younger brother kneel against
the wall as he held a bamboo stick in his hand.
“Who stole the money?” he asked. I was stunned,
too afraid to talk. Neither of us admitted to the fault, so he said, “Fine, if nobody wants to admit,
you two should be beaten!” He lifted up the
bamboo stick.
Suddenly, my younger brother gripped father’s
hand and said,” Dad, I was the one who did it!” The
long stick smacked my brother’s back repeatedly. Father was so angry that he kept on whipping my
brother until he lost his breath.
After that, he sat down on our stone bed and
scolded my brother, “You have learned to steal
from your own house now. What other
embarrassing things will you be possibly doing in the future? You should be beaten to death, you
shameless thief!” That night, my mother and I
hugged my brother. His body was full of wounds
from the beating but he never shed a single tear.
In the middle of the night, all of sudden, I cried out
loudly. My brother covered my mouth with his little hand and said, “Sis, now don’t cry anymore.
Everything has happened.” I still hate myself for not
having enough courage to admit what I did.
Years gone by, but the incident still seemed like it
just happened yesterday. I will never forget my
brother’s expression when he protected me. That year, my brother was 8 years old and I was 11
years old.
When my brother was in his last year of secondary
school, he was accepted in an upper secondary
school in the central. At the same time, I was
accepted into a university in the province. That night, father squatted in the yard, smoking, packet
by packet.
I could hear him ask my mother, “Both of our
children, they have good results? very good
results?” Mother wiped off her tears and sighed,”
What is the use? How can we possibly finance both of them?” At that time, my brother walked out, he
stood in front of father and said,”Dad, I don’t want
to continue my study anymore, I have read enough
books.”
Father swung his hand and slapped my brother on
his face. “Why do you have a spirit so damn weak? Even if it means I have to beg for money on the
streets, I will send you two to school until you have
both finished your study!” And then, he started to
knock on every house in the village to borrow
money.
I stuck out my hand as gently as I can to my brother’s swollen face, and told him, “A boy has to
continue his study; If not, he will not be able to
overcome this poverty we are experiencing.”
I, on the other hand, had decided not to further my
study at the university. Nobody knew that on the
next day, before dawn, my brother left the house with a few pieces of worn-out clothes and a few dry
beans. He sneaked to my side of the bed and left a
note on my pillow; “Sis, getting into a university is
not easy. I will go find a job and I will send money
to you.” I held the note while sitting on my bed,
and cried until I lost my voice. That year, my brother was 17 years old; I was 20
years old.
With the money father borrowed from the whole
village, and the money my brother earned from
carrying cement on his back at a construction site,
finally, I managed to get to the third year of my study in the university.
One day, while I was studying in my room, my
roommate came in and told me, ”There’s a villager
waiting for you outside!” Why would there be a
villager looking for me? I walked out, and I saw my
brother from afar. His whole body was covered with dirt, dust, cement and sand. I asked him, “Why did
you not tell my roommate that you are my
brother?”
He replied with a smile,” Look at my appearance.
What will they think if they would know that I am
your brother? Won’t they laugh at you?” I felt so touched, and tears filled my eyes. I swept away dirt
and dust from my brother’s body. And told him
with a lump in my throat, ” I don’t care what people
would say! You are my brother no matter what your
appearance is?”
From his pocket, he took out a butterfly hair clip. He put it on my hair and said, “I saw all the girls in
town are wearing it. So, I think you should also
have one.” I could not hold back myself anymore. I
pulled my brother into my arms and cried.
That year, my brother was 20 years old; I was 23
years old. I noticed that the broken window was repaired the
first time I brought my boyfriend home. The house
was scrubbed cleaned. After my boyfriend left, I
danced like a little girl in front of my mother, “Mom,
you didn’t have to spend so much time cleaning
the house!” But she told me with a smile, “It was your brother who went home early to clean the
house. Didn’t you see the wound on his hand? He
hurt his hand while he was replacing the window.”
I went into my brother’s bedroom. Looking at his
thin face, I felt like there are hundreds of needle
pricked in my heart. I applied some ointment on his wound and put a
bandag on it, “Does it hurt? ” I asked him. “No, it
doesn’t hurt. You know, when at the construction
site, stones keep falling on my feet. Even that could
not stop me from working.” In the middle of the
sentence, he stopped. I turned my back on him and tears rolled down my face.
That year, my brother was 23 years old; I was 26
years old.
After I got married, I lived in the city. Many times my
husband invited my parents to come and live with
us, but they didn’t want. They said, once they left the village, they wouldn’t know what to do. My
brother agreed with them. He said, “Sis, you just
take care of your parents-in-law. I will take care of
mom and dad here.”
My husband became the director of his factory. We
asked my brother to accept the offer of being the manager in the maintenance department. But my
brother rejected the offer. He insisted on working as
a repairman instead for a start. One day, my brother
was on the top of a ladder repairing a cable, when
he got electrocuted, and was sent to the hospital.
My husband and I visited him at the hospital. Looking at the white gypsum on his leg, I
grumbled, “Why did you reject the offer of being a
manager? Managers won’t do something
dangerous like that. Now look at you, You ar
suffering a serious injury. Why didn’t you just listen
to us?” With a serious expression on his face, he defended
his decision, “Think of brother-in-law. He just
became the director, and I being uneducated, and
would become a manager, what kind of rumors
would fly around?”
My husband’s eyes filled up with tears, and then I said, “But you lack in education only because of
me!” “Why do you talk about the past?” he said and
then he held my hand.
That year, he was 26 years old and I was 29 years
old.
My brother was 30 years old when he married a farmer girl from the village. During the wedding
reception, the master of ceremonies asked him,
“Who is the one person you respect and love the
most?” Without even taking a time to think, he
answered,” My sister.” He continued by telling a
story I could not even remember. “When I was in primary school, the school was in a
different village. Everyday, my sister and I would
walk for 2 hours to school and back home. One
day, I lost the other pair of my gloves. My sister
gave me one of hers. She wore only one glove and
she had to walk far. When we got home, her hands were trembling because of the cold weather that
she could not even hold her chopsticks. From that
day on, I swore that as long as I live, I would take
care of my sister and will always be good to her.”
Applause filled up the room. All guests turned their
attention to me. I found it hard to speak, “In my whole life, the one I would like to thank most is my
brother,” And in this happy occasion, in front of the
crowd, tears were rolling down my face again.
Love and care for the one you love every single days
of your life. You may think what you did is just a
small deed, but to that someone, it may mean a lot. 
May this story inspire you in many ways!

True Love II

A Guy who has no job got married to a banker, despite his fears and several advices that it's not good to marry without a job. Every month the girl would give the guy her full salary of N135k after removing her tithe. The guy would give the wife N20k for personal upkeep and the guy
determined what happened to the remaining money. This happened for three good years. There was happiness in the family and the wife never refused to do her primary home duties for that 3 years, despite wrong advice from friends that 'you can't be paying the bills and still be doing all the work'. There was a particular month the guy used about N70,000 to travel from state to state for different interviews. He finally got a job with a good firm in Port-Harcourt. His salary was N600,000 monthly for a start. He bought his first car (a brand new) for N4.5m, he gave d wife the car key, and continued to take public transport to work for about two years. Then he bought the second
car for N6 million. Then he took the keys of the first car and gave his wife the keys of the second car. They were very happy. They eventually moved into their own house after few years. One day, the wife was looking for some documents. Then she stumbled on a file neatly hidden, when she opened it, she saw her wedding picture when she was very slim in the first page of the file. She then saw that the document to the purchase of the land and every other thing in the house were all written in her name! At the last page was the husband's wedding picture and a note written by him:
''MY WIFE IS ALL I HAVE GOT. NOT EVEN THIS HOUSE WORTH N24M AT THE TIME I BUILT IT IS MINE''.
This couple got married in 1998. Last Sunday was their wedding anniversary with two children a boy and a girl. True LOVE still exists till this day. Are you sure the love you have for Him/Her can be compared to this one you just read? No matter what, remember you chose each other. 
So share...it doesn't matter who puts food on the table.

Everything we have is given by God

A man was driving down the street, he had an important meeting and couldn't find parking space. Looking up towards the Heaven, he said, "Lord! Have pity on me, if you find me a parking space, I'll go to church every Sunday for the rest of my life and give up drinking". Miraculously, a parking space appeared. The man looked up again and said,"Never mind! I found One".


Moral: Many times in our lives we tend to be like this man. We ask God to do us a favor and as soon as he replies us we immediately forget and think its our luck. In all things give thanks to God.
We live by the grace of God.......

Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your
achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism. 
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical or blinded about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully
surrendering the things of youth, except your health.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you
conceive Him to be,and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with
your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful.
Strive to be happy.

Get Ready To Fly!!!

MUST I STRUGGLE B4 I MAKE IT?.... A Student in a prestigious University in
Nigeria,found a cocoon of a butterfly at his Usual
reading joint (a cool place with bush nearby where
He reads immediately after lectures for the day).
Days later, an opening appeared, While studying,
his mind was with the butterfly. For several hours as the new-born butterfly struggled to force its body
through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop
making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten
as far as it could and it could go no farther! TIRED
and GIVEN UP!!! Then the young man decided to help the butterfly,
so he took a rusted nail. He saw and created
enough space for the butterfly. The butterfly then
emerged easily. But it had a swollen body BUT a
small and shriveled wings. The young man
continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would
enlarge and expand to be able to support the body,
which would contract in time. Neither happened! In
fact, the butterfly spent the additional 3hours the
boy spent reading, crawling around with a swollen
body and shriveled wings. It never was able to FLY. When the Boy got home that night, He went directly
to his Grandpa and told him what happened..The
Old Man smiled and replied..."What you in your
kindness and haste did not understand was that
the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for
the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God’s PERFECT way of forcing fluid from the body of
the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready
for flight once it achieved its freedom from the
cocoon! You should have let it STRUGGLE!!" ☀LESSON:
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in
our life... Challenges are the Breakfast of
champions...
SUCCESS ITSELF IS FAILURE TURNED INSIDE OUT! Now, tell me one man (excluding those who
inherited a fleet of companies or a fat bank
account) who made impact in his generation
without a story to tell (whether the story is boring
or not!) Ok, let me dish you some...
→Soichiro Honda: was turned down at an Interview
with Toyota. He was jobless for so many years. He
began making scooters in his garage and today is
the founder of Honda..yes! The Honda you know!
→Akio Morita: many of you don't know him. His 1st product was a rice cooker. It failed to cook and
burnt the rice instead. It sold only 100 pieces!
Guess what? Today he's the owner of SONY...yeah,
your TV and DVD maker..worth Billions.
→Harland Hereevbohjay Da Dyrekta Handroovid
Sanders: He invented a secret chicken recipe and tried to sell it cheap just to feed himself. It was
turned down 1,009 times before a restaurant
reluctantly accepted it..Well..Have you heard of
Kentucky Fried Chicken? That's him!
→Walt Disney: He was sacked by his boss at a
newspaper Company because he "had no good ideas". He tried many other businesses and
failed...He was bankrupt for many years. But you
know the end of the story, don't you? Disney is 1 of
the richest companies worldwide today.
→Oprah Winfrey: she had to endure a rough and
abusive childhood and suffered low self esteem. She was fired from her job simply because her boss
said "you're not fit for TV"...well, she is now the
richest and most influential woman alive and TV's
greatest personality. I wonder how her boss feels
now.
→Sir Alex Ferguson: he was sacked as manager in 1978 cos they said he was a "managerial failure"...
Guess I don't need to say more. The coach with the
highest number of cups to his name!.. Just google
him.
→Roberto Di-Matteo was sacked from his coaching
job at Westbrom after consistently having poor run of result, he even begged to have Birmingham FC
job but was denied, if he follow soccer, you will
know He is the first coach to win European
Champions League for Chelsea FC (what even 'the
special One', Josè Mourinho didn't achieve there)
and the first coach to bring the cup to London... →Richard Branson: was called a dummy in school,
is a dyslexic (sees letters dancing!) and never
succeeded in his studies. Today he's worth $4.4
Billion and owns 360 companies.
→The late Steve Jobs of Apple: was never a
graduate! You and I know what he invented-- the world's most recognized brand, Apple!
♦I can go On and On, but Here is the SECRET: All great men don’t waste a minute being weighed
down by their challenges... They know it is a chance
to make a success story of their own!
If one window closes, they run to the next window
— or break down a door!
Hey! Know surely that it is not God that gives us these problems but the Devil (for the Devil has seen
your great future and the impact you will make if
you make it), but God allowed it because WITHOUT
ANY OBSTACLES, OUR SUCCESS WOULD CRIPPLE US!
We would not be as strong as what we could have
been! And we could never fly!! Don't forget!!! No WARRIOR without a WAR!!!
So, whatever you may be passing through right
now, all I wanna tell u is, GET READY TO FLY!!!

Three Choices!

The Best Date

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you too, and she would love to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.


"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said...
"I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.


"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.

"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."

At that moment I understood the importance of saying, in time, "I LOVE YOU."
And to give our loved ones the time they deserve. Because nothing is more important in life than family... and they shouldn't be put off until "some other time.”

Please share this with every daughter and son you know. Oh well Just Share it with every family and friends you know too! Don't be too late to say How much you love your parents, your sons, your daughters, and your spouse. Today is a good time to go and tell those beautiful words or better do something so beautiful that they will cherish it forever. God Bless. :)

Be Good

One day, a poor boy who was
begging from door to door to feed his hungry
stomach
decided he would ask for a meal at the next house.
However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young
woman opened the door. Instead of a meal, he asked for a drink of water. The woman thought he
looked hungry, so she brought him a large glass of
milk.
He drank it slowly, and then
asked, "how much do I owe
you?". "you don't owe me anything", she replied. "Mother
has taught us never to accept
pay for kindness".
"he said... Then I thank you from my heart".
Years later, that young woman became
critically ill. The local doctors are baffled because
they couldn't cure her.
They finally sent her to the big
city, where they call specialists to study her rare
illness. Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the
consultation. When he heard the name of the town where she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.
Immediately, he rose and went
down the hall of the hospital to
her room. He recognised her at once. he went back
2 d consultation room determined to do his best to
save her life. From that day, he gave special attention to that case. After long
struggle, the battle was won!!! Dr. Kelly requested
the business
office to pass the final bill
to him for approval. He looked
at it, then wrote something on the bill. It was sent to her
room. The woman feared opening it, for she was
sure it
will take the rest of her life
to pay for it all. Finally she
looked, and noticed something was written at the
edge of the note. "paid for in full for a glass of
milk". Tears filled her eyes as she immediately
remembered... Every form of kindness you sow doesn't bounce, it
reproduces itself. Not necessarily before your eyes,
but it always does. I've been kind to you by sharing
this story with you all. So, be kind to share it with
others. It is good to be good. Always be nice for it
always comes back to you

Where Do You Find Love?

True Love

A very poor man lived with his wife

One day, his wife, who had a very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed.

The man felt very sorry and said no.

He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken.

She did not insist on her request.

The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife.

He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife.

He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut.

She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band.

Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.

MORAL: To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love, that is EVERYTHING !! Never take love for granted.

Reciprocate good gestures and cherish your loved one at all times.

Great Marriage Story

My husband is an Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature, and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Three years of courtship and now, two years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of allmy restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings, I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband, is my complete opposite, his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about love.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired, there are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seems to be in deep thought with a lighted cigarette at all times. My feeling of disappointment only increased, here was a man who can’t even express his predicament, what else can I hope from him? And finally he asked me:” What can I do to change your mind?”

Somebody said it right, it’s hard to change a person’s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him. Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered : “Here is the question, if you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind, Let’s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death, will you do it for me?” He said :” I will give you your answer tomorrow….” My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting, underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes…. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but please allow me to explain the reasons further..” This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen, I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs. You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you. You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city, I have to save my eyes to show you the way. You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month, I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom. You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes, I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails, and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand… and tell you the color of flowers, just like the color of the glow on your young face… Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die.. ”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting… and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk… I rush to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread….

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone…

That’s life, and love. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms, even very small and cheeky forms, it has never been a model, it could be the most dull and boring form.. . flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands… and that’s our life… Love, not words win arguments…

God Is Good

A 49year old happily married woman unfortunately lost her only son in 2009 who died on his way back from Youth Service for Christmas. He had earlier graduated from school after studying Engineering (5years +1). After praying fervently she was this year 2012 blessed with quadruplets(three girls and a boy) at the age of 52years. God is definitely so good.

With God Everything Is Possible

A young man working in the army was constantly humiliated because he believed in God.
One day the captain wanted to humiliate him before the troops. He called the young man and
said:
- Young man comes here, take the key and go and park the Jeep in front.
the young man replied:
- I can not drive!
The captain said:
- But then ask your assistance God! shows us that he exist!
The young man takes the key and walked to the vehicle begins to pray ...He parks the jeep to the place PERFECTLY
well as the captain wanted. The young man came out of the jeep and saw them all crying. They all said together:
- We want to serve your God!
The young soldier was astonished, asked what was going on?
CAPTAIN crying opened the hood of the jeep by showing the young man that the car had no engine.
Then the boy said:
See? This is the God I serve, THE GOD OF IMPOSSIBLE, the God who gives life to what does not exist.
You may think there are things still impossible
WITH GOD EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE ..

Why Did I Get Married?

Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?'

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.

Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!

About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
The main message???

Learn to appreciate what u have before time makes u appreciate what u had...and do it before someone's tomorrow has been taken away, cherish those you love, appreciate them today..... 

A letter From A Parent for Marriage

Dear Children,

Should the Lord give you the good gift of a husband or wife, and I hope He does, there are a few things I want you to know. Things that you may not hear from anyone else, and certainly not on TV or other media. Sadly, your church may not even tell you.

Marriage, sweet little people, is not for the purpose of your happiness. Happy as I want you to be and hope you will be, you must yet understand that marriage is God’s design and His purposes must be pursued in order for you to be truly happy. His end is holiness and He will use all things in a life devoted to Him to fulfill that end.

To my girls:

Marry a man whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, he is not hard to please. Admire him, cheer him on and show gratitude, and he will fall over himself trying to please you. Smile often, speak well of him always, and do whatever necessary to try and maintain a pleasant mood about you so that it transfers to your home, making it a place where he and your children love to be.

You’ll have bad days of course, crying days even, and that’s when you go to your bedroom, kneel on the floor and beg the Lord to carry you. Then get up, get a fresh perspective (crayons will come off the wall), and try again. Above all else, make a home.

To my boys:

Marry a woman whose first pursuit is Christ. After that, she may be hard to please  only if you don’t know “the secret”. What is that? I’m glad you asked. The secret to pleasing your wife is to make her feel safe and treasured. You may have to move out of your comfort zone to do this at times. She won’t always readily translate the oil change to love, though it means that. But let me give you a “secret question”–a question you need to ask her often. It’s not just in the asking, though. Be sure to focus your eyes on hers, maybe even touch her shoulder or face, and then ask: “What’s on your mind these days? “ And then be ready to listen. She wants you to draw her out. She will perceive this as your protection over the matters of her heart. Tenderness, listening, protection. That’s what she wants.

To you all:

If your wife or husband does something really stupid, forgive. If they do it again, forgive again. Forgiveness must be the propelling force in your lives each day. Dwell on the strengths, push out thoughts of their weaknesses. Take every thought captive–choose to love.

Here’s that part you are not going to hear often:

If you find yourself “not happy”, having lost attraction, disinterested, etc., you are not permitted to even think about a divorce. If you find yourselves arguing more and more, don’t think for a minute that “the children will be better off out of this”, because they won’t.

The vows you took on your wedding day were not suggestions. They were covenant vows, before a Holy God, family and friends, to stay with this person the rest of your life, even if you don’t feel like it. You swore a solemn oath and if you can’t live up to it, don’t get married. Decide up front that your marriage is irrevocable. There is far more motivation for getting along if your “marriage house” has no door.

Do not share intimate thoughts or feelings with anyone of the opposite sex. Do not find yourself alone for any length of time with such either.

Divorce is not a “private option”. It will affect multiple families for many generations. When you “separate what God has joined” you permanently injure far more than just yourself.

Guard your marriage as fiercely as you would guard your own life. Treat your spouse as an extension of your flesh, just as God sees you. Treat your spouse like other family members. You know, “you gotta love ‘em, they’re the only family you’ve got”.

I want you to be happy, I surely do. But I will pray for you to be holy

Don't Judge People

THIS STORY IS ONE OF THE MOST BEAUTIFUL LIFE LESSONS ...

A doctor came to the hospital in a hurry after being called for urgent surgery. He answered the call, changed his clothes as soon as possible and went straight to the block for surgery. There, he finds the boy's father who made going back and forth in the lobby. Seeing the doctor arrive, the father yelled: "Why did you take that long to come? dont you know that my son's life is in danger? dont you have sense of responsibility "?

The doctor smiled and said: "I'm sorry, I was not in the hospital and I came as soon as possible after receiving the call ...... Now I want you to calm down I can do my work "

"Calm down? and if it was your son would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do? " said the father angrily.
The doctor smiled again and said, "Dust we came and to dust we shall return, blessed be the name of God. The doctors can not prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God's grace "

"Giving advice when we are not concerned it's so easy" murmured the father.

The surgery took several hours after which the doctor came out happy, "Thank God! Your son is spared, If you have any question, ask a nurse! "
"Why is he so arrogant? He could not wait a few minutes for me about the health of my son, "said the father seeing the nurse after the doctor left.

The nurse replied, tears .. down her face: "His son died yesterday in a road accident, it was his funeral when we called for your son's surgery. And now that he has spared the life of your son, he went running to finish the burial of his son. "

NEVER judge anyone because you do not know what he/she is going through.

Things Happen For A Reason

The brand new pastor and his wife, newly assigned

to their first ministry, to reopen a church

in suburban Brooklyn , arrived in early October

excited about their opportunities. When they saw

their church, it was very run down and needed

much work. They set a goal to have everything

done in time to have their first service

on Christmas Eve.

They worked hard, repairing pews, plastering walls,

painting, etc, and on December 18

were ahead of schedule and just about finished.

On December 19 a terrible tempest - a driving

rainstorm hit the area and lasted for two days.

On the 21st, the pastor went over to the church.

His heart sank when he saw that the roof had

leaked, causing a large area of plaster about

20 feet by 8 feet to fall off the front wall of the

sanctuary just behind the pulpit, beginning about

head high.

The pastor cleaned up the mess on the floor,

and not knowing what else to do but postpone

the Christmas Eve service, headed home.

On the way he noticed that a local business was

having a flea market type sale for charity so he

stopped in. One of the items was a beautiful,

handmade, ivory colored, crocheted tablecloth

with exquisite work, fine colors and a Cross

embroidered right in the center. It was just

the right size to cover up the hole in the front

wall. He bought it and headed back to the church.

By this time it had started to snow. An older

woman running from the opposite direction was

trying to catch the bus.. She missed it. The pastor

invited her to wait in the warm church for

the next bus 45 minutes later.

She sat in a pew and paid no attention to the pastor

while he got a ladder, hangers, etc., to put

up the tablecloth as a wall tapestry. The pastor

could hardly believe how beautiful it looked and

it covered up the entire problem area.

Then he noticed the woman walking down the center

aisle. Her face was like a sheet.. "Pastor,"

she asked, "where did you get that tablecloth?"

The pastor explained. The woman asked him to check

the lower right corner to see if the initials, EBG were crocheted into

it there. They were. These were the initials of the woman, and she had

made this tablecloth 35 years before, in Austria

The woman could hardly believe it as the pastor

told how he had just gotten the Tablecloth. The

woman explained that before the war she and

her husband were well-to-do people in Austria .

When the Nazis came, she was forced to leave.

Her husband was going to follow her the next

week.He was captured, sent to prison and never saw her

husband or her home again.

The pastor wanted to give her the tablecloth;

but she made the pastor keep it for the church.

The pastor insisted on driving her home, that

was the least he could do.. She lived on the other

side of Staten Island and was only in Brooklyn

for the day for a housecleaning job.

What a wonderful service they had on Christmas

Eve. The church was almost full. The music and the

spirit were great. At the end of the service, the

pastor and his wife greeted everyone at the door

and many said that they would return.

One older man, whom the pastor recognized

from the neighborhood continued to sit in one of the

pews and stare, and the pastor wondered why he

wasn't leaving.

The man asked him where he got the tablecloth on

the front wall because it was identical to one

that his wife had made years ago when

they lived in Austria before the war and how

could there be two tablecloths so much alike.

He told the pastor how the Nazis came, how he

forced his wife to flee for her safety and he was

supposed to follow her, but he was arrested and

put in a prison.. He never saw his wife or his home

again all the 35 years in between.

The pastor asked him if he would allow him to

take him for a little ride. They drove to Staten

Island and to the same house where the pastor

had taken the woman three days earlier.

He helped the man climb the three flights of

stairs to the woman's apartment, knocked on

the door and he saw the greatest Christmas

reunion he could ever imagine.

True Story - submitted by Pastor Rob Reid

Who says God does not work in mysterious ways..

I asked the Lord to bless you as I prayed for

you today, to guide you and protect you as you go

along your way. His love is always with you, His

promises are true, and when we give Him all our

cares you know He will see us through.

So when the road you're traveling on seems

difficult at best.. Just remember I'm here

praying and God will do the rest. Pass this on

to those you want God to bless and don't forget

to send it back to the one who asked God to bless

you first.

When there is nothing left but God, that is when

you find out that God is all you need. Take 60

seconds and give this a shot! All you do is simply

say the following small prayer for the person

who sent you this.

Father, God, bless all my friends and family in what

ever it is that You know they may be needing this

day! May their life be full of your peace,

prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a

closer relationship with you. Amen.

Then send it on to five other people within hours five people have prayed for you and you caused a multitude of people

to pray for other people. Then sit back and watch the power of God work in your life.